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Happy Valentines Day! When I used to work at Hallmark years ago, we would joke that this holiday is a commercial holiday to make single people feel bad and to make couples feel guilty. There was a time that I really began to dislike this holiday and others that have become so focused on the material exchange of a gift, or display of affection. You better send flowers or a gift- otherwise what? Your love isn’t real? Moments like this make me wonder at the trivial state of our culture and our society. For me the concept of love is so abstract and has a different meaning than what our society teaches. Yesterday I read these poignant words by David Whyte and they embody what true love is about. When you experience any type of a loss or your heartbreaks, you grow spiritually and develops deeper understanding of who you are and what matters. And I will add that experiencing heartbreak is a beautiful experience. It tells you that you are able to feel at the deepest level of your soul. What a gift! Have a beautiful day! I will spend the day loving myself and my Divine creator who has given me this precious gift of life. I’m blessed and grateful. HEARTBREAK is unpreventable; the natural outcome of caring for people and things over which we have no control, of holding in our affections those who inevitably move beyond our line of sight. Heartbreak begins the moment we are asked to let go but cannot, in other words, it colors and inhabits and magnifies each and every day; heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life. Heartbreak is an indication of our sincerity: in a love relationship, in a life’s work, in trying to learn a musical instrument, in the attempt to shape a better more generous self. Heartbreak is the beautifully helpless side of love and affection and is just as much an essence and emblem of care as the spiritual athlete’s quick but abstract ability to let go. Heartbreak has its own way of inhabiting time and its own beautiful and trying patience in coming and going. Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time. Heartbreak, we hope, is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time. But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way. …If heartbreak is inevitable and inescapable, it might be asking us to look for it and make friends with it, to see it as our constant and instructive companion, and even perhaps, in the depth of its impact as well as in its hindsight, to see it as its own reward. Heartbreak asks us not to look for an alternative path, because there is no alternative path. It is a deeper introduction to what we love and have loved, an inescapable and often beautiful question, something or someone who has been with us all along, asking us to be ready for the last letting go. ‘HEARTBREAK’ Excerpted From CONSOLATIONS: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words. © David Whyte and Many Rivers Press 2

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